Fingering might be seen by some as a teenage sex act that has no place in adult sex lives, but they would be so very wrong. When done right, fingering is The Best. It's actually also really important for female pleasure and orgasm. And that's where fingering comes in. Anyone who has sex with people with vulvas needs to know how to do it well.
Fingering tips for when you want to finger someone *really* well
How to Finger Someone Who Has a Vulva: 35 Tips, Techniques, and More
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. I know most women love being fingered, but I've never enjoyed it that much.
Whether it's part of foreplay or the main event, fingering can be super pleasurable for people with vulvas—as long as it's done well. Bad digital stimulation isn't just a huge turn-off; it can also be incredibly painful! That's why we spoke with some sex-positive women about how men can up their fingering game.
Everyone likes different things. Here are variations and tips. Find out together which ones turn you on.