Can a married couple have anal sex? Is it a sin to have anal sex? What is permissible? Having counseled for over twenty years, this question is fairly new among Christ-followers. I think there are at least two main reasons engaged and married couples consider this question: first and primarily, anal sex is all over pornography; and second, it is glamorized in the pop-culture media. Especially among teenagers and young adults, anal sex is an issue to consider and understand.
Beyond submission — what if the woman wants anal sex? Is it ok for a Christian couple to engage in anal sex? That is a word made up in the English language. Most people today when they hear the word sodomy think of one of two things — homosexual acts especially between two or more men or anal sex. But the definition of sodomy in English is broader than this and includes oral sex or anal sex even between a man and woman.
In her new book, Christians Under Covers: Evangelicals and Sexual Pleasure on the Internet , University of Nebraska-Lincoln sociologist Kelsy Burke offers a small peek under the covers of the sex lives of evangelical Christians and her findings reveal a lot of kinky behavior, including "anal play. Website users concluded that an array of sexual activities qualified as "godly sex" that strengthens Christian marriage. And what Burke, who does not identify as an evangelical Christian, found in her study was that even within the confines of Protestant heterosexual norms, Christians still found creative ways to explore a cornucopia of sexual interests.
Every week, we get unfulfilled searches on our blog, emails from readers, and survey respondent comments asking about this topic. I finally decided to build a survey around the question of anal sex and Christianity last week. Imagine my surprise when we got over respondents in the first 24 hours! A week later, we had respondents on a topic I thought almost no one would touch!